You know how you’re never suppose to compare your kids to other kids? I broke that rule.
I lost focus and judged my kids by what someone else’s kids were doing.
The Year I Lost Focus
I’m a math major. My kids should be stellar at math, right?
Nope. They’re not bad at math, but let’s just say it’s not their favorite subject to study.
Seriously. They prefer to dig in the dirt, play with their friends, or draw than do math.
But my friends’ kids are amazing at math. They love math. They progressed quickly. They left my kids in the dust.
And it wasn’t one odd family, it was several families.
My kids were doing well with the math program we were using, making good progress, even thriving. Just not excelling and racing through the different levels of math like a race horse.
Not like my friends’ kids.
It had to be the math curriculum we were using.
So we switched back to the math curriculum we’d originally used. The one that never clicked for my kids. The one I switched from because we were making no progress.
Not my wisest decision.
My kids did great while we reviewed old material. And then we reached the new material. What Saxon Math gently and carefully introduced over several months, this curriculum did in one lesson.
My kids sat horrified. They looked at me with fear-stricken eyes. The tears began to flow.
Homeschool mom guilt. Double homeschool mom guilt. No, triple homeschool mom guilt.
Not only had I judged my kids by what other kids were doing, I switched to a curriculum that made them cry. We lost valuable time in math.
And the kids didn’t thrive, they wilted.
We returned to Saxon Math. The kids resumed their steady, plodding pace.
And I learned to ignore everyone else’s kids and focus on my own kids.