Diabolical is a good description of the dialectic stage. One morning your normally pleasant, cheerful child turns into an argumentative, grumpy, pubescent preteen.
You ask your child if they’d like eggs for breakfast. In response, you hear, “I HATE eggs. We have eggs everyday. Why can’t we have donuts every morning instead of eggs.”
“Allie, please take out the trash.”
“Why do I have to take out the trash? It’s not fair. You should have Ben take out the trash instead of me. You’re always asking me. Why is it always me?!”
Welcome to the Dialectic Stage
It doesn’t matter what you say. A child in the dialectic stage argues with absolutely everything. They argue with parents. They argue with siblings. They argue with friends.
The dialectic child has moved from sweetly and cheerfully parroting everything around them to attempting to apply logic to the world. We need children to go through this annoying stage of life in order to have rational adults.
Young children have to mimic the adults around them to be safe. They’re learning how to walk down the street safely, what foods to eat, what not to eat, how to behave, and how to play with friends. Parroting everything is the best method for the children to learn.
Goodbye, Sweet Parrot.
Hello, Diabolical Arguing Machine.
Adults don’t survive well if they simply mimic and parrot everyone around. We need to decide what stocks to invest in, how best to save for retirement, what’s the best job to take, and what foods to purchase for the dinner table. Thinking for ourselves is a basic requirement of adulthood.
Preteens are moving from the parrot stage of childhood, to the rational thought of adulthood. So they question everything. Nothing is safe. Our sweet little parrots have turned into diabolical arguing machines
It’s time to teach these diabolical arguing machines to argue properly. Introduce logic, critical thinking, and long discussions to their education. Spend time encouraging your preteens to think about what they’re saying and why.
With a bit of study, work, and encouragement, your children gradually turn into teenagers who argue logically.Who think instead of react.
Who are ready for the rhetoric stage of development.